SUPPORT!!!!!

That is all I ever wanted from Mel Stern!!!! And that is what I and many others gave him plenty of. After my mom’s death and little sister’s accident in 1984. The Highland, Clarksville, Maryland communities rallied around our family. But especially around Mel. They supported Mel in any and every way possible. Which, in the beginning, would be expected. But, instead of trying to support me too. I often felt like Mel expected me to support him. Like the community was. Mel even once said to me, “You lost your mother. But I lost my wife.” And Mel never said anything about the fact that I had, basically, lost my best friend a month later. When my little sister was in her life threatening accident. Things didn’t look good. I couldn’t lose my little sister, month’s after losing my mom. I begged, pleaded, and promised Mel. I would help take care of my sister. I couldn’t have imagined in my early adolescents just how much Mel would expect out of me.

But, as a child/young adolescent I was committed to Mel’s grief. In the early years the outside community gave the little support  I needed to continue on with Mel’s support.

I was trying very hard to be very supportive of Mel. Still wanting some, any return support from Mel. Mel never gave me any.

In my early twenties. I got the nerve up to tell Mel where some of my teenage “support” had come from. That through ages 14-19 someone that Mel hired had also been molesting me. I gave Mel multiple details of ways I tried to avoid the situation all together over the years. To ways it always seemed to fail in the end. Mel told me I was lieing.

Since Mel Stern is not just my father. But also a medical doctor. He is mandated by federal law to report any and all abuse on a minor. He did not report this though. And by the time I again repeated the same details to a therapist. And it was reported and investigated. Because it wasn’t “rape”. The statute of limitations had runout. If Mel had reported it, time wouldn’t have runout.

So I have supported Mel’s grief while putting my grief on the back burner. I literally never got the chance to grieve my own Mom’s death.

Mel never knew that what really got me through all my adolescent years. Was this twisted thinking that Mel really had my Mom hid somewhere getting better. And that one day she was going to just walk through the door. And everything would go back to normal.

That is how I dealt with getting molested. I never said anything to Mel because between loosing my Mom and taking care of Jeni. I felt Mel had enough to do. I would take care of this. Never in a million years did I ever think Mel would call me lier.

It wasn’t until I was 19 years old, in college. That I realized/acknowledged my Mom’s death. I remember that day as if it where yesterday. I called my grandma in tears. “She’s really gone. Isn’t she?” “Oh Cheralla” (I think that’s how its spelled. I don’t know. My grandma always called me Cheri in Yiddish) A few days later there was a goodie box in my mail.

I was taking on more responsibilities of the day to day care of Jeni.  Starting a family of my own. And becoming more aware of Mel’s actions.

Mail addressed to ; Melvin S. Stern C/F Cheri Ann Stern UGMA or Sondra Jo Stern UGMA?

This would take me years to understand. All the while I kept an eye on it. I would call the bank on the statement, occasionally for information and get stonewalled. That was until 2006.

UGMA/UTMA: Uniform Gifts to Minors Act/Uniform Transfer to Minors Act; A UGMA is simply an act that allows a donor/parent to give up all possession/control of assets, such as securities, stocks and bonds. And allow them to be held in a custodian’s name. For the benefit of a minor without needing an attorney or needing to setup a special trust. Allows minors to have property set aside for their benefit. And may achieve some income tax benefits for the parent. Once the child becomes recognized legal age in the state. All assets become the property of the child without restrictions.

In October 2006 I contacted Ryan Beck regarding these custodial accounts. In need of more information. After verification, Ryan Beck, confirmed that the custodial account under the name of Cheri Ann Stern was opened in 1999. The second custodial account under the name Sondra Jo Stern, was opened in 2000. Both accounts where under the same custodial guardian, Mel Stern and the same S.S. #.

I tried to notify lawyers and the state comptroller a number of times over this. No one would listen.

Whenever I had worked some place. Mel had just told me to claim “0” dependants. And that when I received my “W2” just let Mel’s tax accountant handle everything. In 1996 I ended up with a my tax return. Was I surprised at what I saw.

The taxpayer signature, under the paragraph that says: under penalties of perjury…. not my signature. MEL signed my name and dated it.

Mel signed the federal and state forms. Put dates on them, my S.S.# and Mel’s address. I know that for certain, at the time I was living in Glenwood, Maryland. With my husband, 2 kids, and I was pregnant.

Once again I spoke to attorneys, the IRS and the state comptroller. Even filing form 3949 A with the IRS Department of Treasury. Like I was instructed. I never heard anything back.

This, of course, not being the first document I uncovered. To show Mel’s dicepsion not only with his own daughters. But with several banking institutions and the state and federal government. This would not be the last document either.

Over many years I’ve made phone calls not only to attorneys. But to County, state, and federal officials. All of which have had one reason or another not to investigate. Well I’m telling you now. I will not stop posting documents for you to view. Until you start to investigate now. I hope I finally have someone’s attention. My mom and little sister deserve it!!!!!

Real Estate?

feedback from any experts; real estate agents, lawyers, etc. 👌 !!!!!!

Family History: Truth or Secrets?

Now I’m not going to even pretend to understand anything that I’ve been looking at. I’ve been trying to understand it for weeks. I’ve asked about parts of it. Since I was a teenager. Back then I was told I was to young and wouldn’t understand.

Well, at age 49. I’m a empty nester with my husband, Mark. Together we have raised 4 healthy children. Now young adults at 27,24,23 and 21. We are now (the dreaded) in-law’s and soon to be (the dreaded) in-law’s. [I’m not getting off subject. But, even those of us that LOVE our in-law’s. Sometimes its our own parents that drive us nuts.] But we are also MomMom and PopPop twice over. Just a quick hint to all those young “parents” out there who think they know everything and don’t have to listen to anything their parents might be trying to say. Unfortunately kids are…

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Real Estate?

Now I’m not going to even pretend to understand anything that I’ve been looking at. I’ve been trying to understand it for weeks. I’ve asked about parts of it. Since I was a teenager. Back then I was told I was to young and wouldn’t understand.

Well, at age 49. I’m a empty nester with my husband, Mark. Together we have raised 4 healthy children. Now young adults at 27,24,23 and 21. We are now (the dreaded) in-law’s and soon to be (the dreaded) in-law’s. [I’m not getting off subject. But, even those of us that LOVE our in-law’s. Sometimes its our own parents that drive us nuts.] But we are also MomMom and PopPop twice over. Just a quick hint to all those young “parents” out there who think they know everything and don’t have to listen to anything their parents might be trying to say. Unfortunately kids are not born with any instruction manuals or directions in hand from G-D. So your left to learn as you go like the rest of us. And the only thing MORE rewarding than being called Mom or Dad. Being called MomMom or PopPop. Back on track!!!!

Just wondering outloud if any of this life experience has given anyone the thought of maybe. Finally sitting down and explaining things to me that I seemed to be to young for before. But probably not. Because you see. Everyone else has moved on. Nobody wants to go back. And if I bring anything up I’m just told I’m stuck in the past. Maybe so. But thats because nobody would address them with me. I kept waiting for “my turn”. And when it seemed to finally come. I was told I had to move on. So, since I have largely felt ignored all my life. I’m reaching out to internet land for answers.

We are going to start with the purchase of the Mink Hollow Dr. property in 1977. Since I’m not a real estate agent or a lawyer. I’m just going to show you the documents. The mortgage between Mom, Mel and Vermont Federal Savings and Loan, the Deed, and the Special Power Attorney

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My Promise!!!!

I have FINALLY figured out just how I want to do this. I’m not going to promise that I’m always going to succeed at it. But I’m going to try my hardest!!!! Just what is it? Keeping my strongest emotions out of this. And only put out there things that can be proven right or wrong. I’m going to be honest and say. Its going to be very hard. And I’m probably, no, most definitely, going to have to be reminded of this. I only ask that its done in a somewhat gentle manner. As I can be somewhat sensitive at times too. And thank you for your continued patience as I gather my nerves and start to open my flood gates. Hopefully those same nerves won’t cause me to close my “gates” once again. I’ve been doing that since I was a teen to long. Its time they stayed open.

Overcoming my fear!!!!

So the real reason I post something and won’t for a very long time. Its pure FEAR!!!! Fear that I’m going to be called a lier. Because I have. By Mel and other close family members. Even though I have documents to back up memories. Most often, if I’m not being called a lier. I’m being told there are many things I don’t understand. And I’ve been saying for many years. Then explain it to me. And no one ever has. So I live in fear of saying something and being told I’m lieing.

Now that you know my truth. Hopefully it will help you make up your own mind. As I get the courage to post documents, facts, my memories and more.

I wanted to add something before I got comments regarding future posts.

I have talked to County, state, and Federal authorities over the last 30+ years. I have sent letters and documents. And two things end up happening. Either nothing at all, or, one of the first things they do is to talk to Mel.

So I am left with no choice but to expose all of the written legal documents, memories, and more. That I have. Its the only way I know how to get anyone to finally listen to, take me seriously, know that I am not lieing. And REALLY understand the real reason behind why I’m doing this. I’ll give a hint: It has nothing to do with money!!!!!

Trying to START at all…

I’m not all sure what you all see on my website as far as. Pages, blogs and so on. It seems like everytime I get on here to write about something. I end up trying to figure how to edit something and what things mean. Before I know it. My entire day has gone by and I’ve gotten nothing done. And now I have to figure out what to do for dinner and start making the house look like I’ve done something. Before my husband gets home from work.

My Dyslexia and ADD just don’t allow me to visualize a website like I should. No matter how hard I try to force my brain to do it. And believe me, I have been trying to force it to learn this for over 20 years.

So I’m going to stop trying to figure that out. Because right now, I really have to focus on my mental health. So I’m advocating for myself right now. And telling anyone out there. That, in time, hopefully soon, I will start posting again. But, I’m not going to be focusing on all the fancy stuff. Just my story and the facts. So hopefully you’ll be back. It’ll be worth the wait. I promise!!!!!

My Open Letter

My absence started with some MAJOR technical difficulties. I have since gotten those resolved for the time being. (I think) Unfortunately, it quickly evolved into what has been going on in every household. Across the country and the world. But over the resent few days I finally came back to what I was trying to accomplish with these posts.

Like I’ve said before. I’m simply telling MY truth. I have also made clear that any misinformation that I might post. I apologize for, and if brought to my attention. I will apologize for and correct it. But I have also realized that. Everyone else has gotten there truth out. I have nothing to hide. So I have to continue telling and showing MY truth!!! Because that’s all I have.

An Early Timeline?

I’m starting first with an apology. Some of the information posted about my maternal grandparents was not accurate.

Charles and Helene Gurdin combined had 4 children, making total for Gurdin family 6. A son was brought into the marriage. And they had 2 boys and 1 girl. In 1966 Charles Gurdin past away.

On to the timeline now.

•my Mom 12yr. Mel 16yr. meet

•my Mom 13yr. Mel 18yr. pregnant first time

•8-6-62 Mom 14yr. Mel 19yr. Gives birth to son/adopted

•my Mom 15yr. Mel 20yr. pregnant second time

•12-22-64 Mom 16yr. Mel 21yr. gives birth to a daughter

•1966 Mom 18yr. Mel 23yr. Mom’s father died-Charles Gurdin (who she was very close with)

•After that big life events continue to happen. More babies are born, Mel becomes a Dr.

•1977 Mom and Mel bought the “little brown house on 6685 Mink Hollow Rd. in Highland”

•I am not a lawyer, nor am I a lender at a bank, or a real estate broker. So instead of trying to explain the documents. I’ll just show the documents.

Maryland Department of Assessments and Taxation of Howard County

•Maryland Department of Assessments and Taxation of Howard County: Real Property Data Search

•Original Deed of 6685 Mink Hollow Rd. Highland, Maryland 20777 property. signed: October 21,1977 Between Robert Higginbotham, Melvin S. Stern, and Gail N. Stern(my mom).

•Original Mortgage of Highland, MD Property. Signed by Mel and Gail Stern,who was acting under Limited Power of Attorney guidelines now (Mel was her Limited P.O.A) and Vermont Federal Savings and Loan Association on October 14,1977.

•Original Documentation of Special Power of Attorney. Signed on October 14,1977 by Gail N. Stern.

I’ll just ask one question? Do married couples tend to request “Special/Limited Power of Attorney” documents when buying property/real estate?

And to think. There is not only a lot more real estate to go. But taxes, stocks, bonds, trust records and more.

The Beginning of the End?

On January 1, 1983. Montgomery County police would find my mother deceased in her apartment in Olney, Maryland. Later the coroner would rule her death “natural causes”. As I sit here today. I think, really? These things just don’t add up to me.

A basically healthy 36y.o. woman, dead by natural causes.  Her estranged husband, a Dr., seems to get investigation wrapped up rather quick.

Mel was the last one to see our mom alive. It was New Year’s and mom had no drugs or alcohol in her system, no suicide.

Let’s back up about 16-18 months before.

My older sister comes home from school and hears our mom crying. Our mom tells Sandi, she had recently found out she was pregnant with twins. But when mom told Mel he had said “their marriage wasn’t strong enough” and she had to get an abortion. Mel had made the appointment and mom had gone that morning, alone. Mel had to work. (Mom had taken a sick day from work). By the time me and my little sister, Jeni, got home from school Mel was on his way to his “meeting”. By then, even I knew what that meant. It was Mel’s weekly “date”. Mel would have one, 1-2 nights a week. Mel had them for years, every place we lived, with many different women. But my mom stayed with Mel. Mel had not been loyal to mom since they met and Mel was in h.s. and Mom still in m.s. But mom had something Mel didn’t. Money. And I truly believe Mel exploited mom for it. I mean why else would a 16y.o. be interested in a 12y.o.

But mom did always trust that Mel would take care of her. After all, mom had made sure Mel’s dream of becoming a Dr. became a reality. Sure his parents helped A LOT financially as well. But Mom marketed Mel where ever we lived. And Mom never spoke badly of Mel, making Mel out to look like a saint.

With the amount of times the Howard County Police had been called to the house for domestic disturbances. I don’t understand how a court could grant Mel custody of 3 kids. Except for the fact that he is a Dr. Anyway, Mel took full advantage of this. Brainwashing us to the fullest. Asked us if we wanted “I survived visitation” t-shirts made. And would help us count the visitations.

Well, that summer of 1982 was “the beginning of the end” not only for my mom. But also for my childhood. It was then that my mom moved to Olney, Maryland and the court appointed visitations started. Mel would audio tape us talking to our mom. In case it got heated and Mel could use it in court against Mom. Mel flew us a cross the country to our grandparents in California. But first Mel made us memorize new identities. Told us to use these identities until we where with our grandparents. And Mel made all travel arrangements for us under those new identities. Mel told us he was protecting us from Mom.

As a parent myself, and under the law. I’m pretty sure it read the same in 1982 as it does now. That sounds like kidnapping.

Weeks later Mel had my older sister, Sandi, fly back to Maryland. So Sandi could testify against our mom on Mel’s behalf.

In the late summer, early fall of 1982 my mom wanted to take my little sister and I for a weekend trip to New York to see her mom. But Mel had brainwashed us well. I wouldn’t go without Sandi. So with a list of cousin’s, in case we needed them. Off we went.

I remember enjoying any time spent with my mom. I’m also a plea’sr by nature. So at the same time I’m really having a lot of fun with my mom. And seeing how happy she is. I’m also trying to please Mel and make him proud. So when Sandi and our mom got into a huge fight. All 3 of us girls went to a cousin’s. Sandi called Mel, Mel called his lawyer, & the lawyer called the judge. Mel called us back and told us. If we really didn’t want to go back that was fine. But if that was our choice, the judge would be throwing Mel in jail. We went back and finished our visit. But those are the kind of mental abuse games Mel played on us.

It’s now 6 weeks before our mom’s death. Mom is on the phone talking with a friend who notices long pauses in mom’s sentences. A couple of more phone talks and she is noticing slurring and the pauses more frequently. She finally asks our mom about it. And is told that Mel hasn’t been providing enough $ to cover her seizure meds. So mom is rationing it. Her friend is furious. Not at our mom. But at Mel. After all, Mel’s a Dr. Mel knows how important that medication is to mom. Mom’s been on it forever. But no one knows how long mom has been “self rationing”. Mel writes her a script & mom fills it. It’s assumed that she resumes her usual dose.

What really bothers me. Is this. I’m no Dr. But I know enough to know that once you’ve messed with seizure medication like that. One REALLY has to go through some tests. At the very least have a brain scan BEFORE changing a dose of a medication. When her friend spoke with me years later. She said that she was not only pretty certain mom had probably not done any testing. But mom had probably not even notified her actual Dr. yet. Mel’s script had provided mom with enough to get through the New Year. Her friend had a feeling Mom wouldn’t contact the Dr. until January.

New Years Eve The Allison’s always had a party. We all went as a family and had a great time. We brought in 1983 and mom seemed very hopeful about the year. Mom and Mel brought us home and put us to sleep. And then Mel left Sandi in charge so Mel could take our mom home.

Mel said when he left mom was laying on the couch. Her friend said our Mom was really excited and hopeful about a marriage therapy appointment Mom and Mel were scheduled for on Monday, January 2, 1983.

But on Sunday, January 1, 1983 a friend of the families would have to tell me, and then Jeni that our mom had died. Mel came in the house right after we where told.

Sandi, Cheri, & Jeni

So to break it down and make it simple. My questions are as follows:

•how does a healthy 36y.o. woman die of natural causes

•corrinor reported seeing granmal seizure activity. Yet our mom was on medication

•abortion 16-18 months prior to death

•how do the courts grant Mel guardian with domestic disturbs on file.

•how does Mel get away with kidnapping

•how can a Dr. be adhering to Ethical Laws when treating family members, writing family members scripts

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